I wrote an article. There will be around 5 to 7 articles. This will be about things I learned about love, being a man, and getting the girl. But in reality this is all about being a better human being. Once everything makes sense, men will be happier, more in control, less frustration and more joy.
I have always wanted to write this or continue one of the categories in this blog called “Being A Man”. It is so incomplete. I learned so much this year and I matured a lot. Just a quick background, in my 20s, I always get attracted to beautiful women. These women get attracted to me as well. Unfortunately, this is where the problem starts. There will be 10 other guys that wants to be with her. A lot of the guys are very attractive as well and they are pretty successful. I have no idea how I can beat these other men. I knew that these women will be a lot better off with me. I knew that I am a great guy or perfect guy for them. However, I cannot communicate that. The more I try to make them see it, the more they don’t see it. There will be times when the women will see it but when they see it, I am no longer interested and the feelings for my part were gone. I did not know how to convince them to make that leap. The more I try, the more it did not work.
I tried being really nice. I was trying to communicate I will be so nice to you more than any other guy. I tried being sweet. I tried everything. Nothing works. As long as they have other guys that are attracted to them, I am nothing more than a backup plan. Some are willing to have friends with benefits, I can be Mr. Right Now, and etc. but I can tell that they were not in love with me. When I let them go, they start seeing it. It made no sense before. It makes a lot of sense now though.
Now everything is so easy. Now I can tell what I did wrong in the past, what I am doing correct right now. In the past, I put too much effort which is the reason they did not fall for me. I was basically doing their role and my role. I did a lot of things that did not work. I see a lot of guys doing the same thing and same mistakes. I know that I just need to point these guys in the right direction and everything will be easy for them as well. But I am not going to do that because I do not want anyone I know finding this blog. But for you men, who are lucky enough to find this in the search engines then good for you. I can point you in the right direction.
Right now, I am attracting all these really great women that are very very beneficial for me and I would definitely have a great time with them. Even if one does not workout, I can still attract women that are great for me. The amazing part is that my love life is so much better because the women are so much better than the women I attract in the past. The women that I attract before would be very beautiful outside but nothing inside. Now a lot of women I am attracted to and get attracted to me are beautiful inside and outside.
Once you know your role, a lot of pride disappears because you no longer need it. You realize that pride holds you back and keeps you from getting what you want. Pride is replaced with self respect. You will be able to differentiate between the two. You will be happier and have more security, sense of control, less fear and things make more sense. The one thing you will realize out of all things is that ‘LOVE’ conquers all. ‘LOVE’ changes everything and it is all you need to get the relationship that you want.
I used to asked this question a lot whenever I am alone with a girl or on a date or to get to know her or to pass the time. It is a loaded question or hypothetical question. If you can have any superpower, what will it be? What kind of superpower will you pick? My answer has always been “I want to be able to cure any disease”, if I touch a person, he or she will be cured of any disease. A lot of people would pick flying, invisibility, and teleportation. There will be times when a girl will answer something different. The one answer that I remember out of all answers is the girl said she wants to have the superpower called ‘LOVE’. It made absolutely no sense because everyone has it. It is not a superpower at all. Everyone can give love and receive love. It is something we are born with.
Now I understand it. ‘LOVE’ can change your reality and anyone’s reality. It can give you anything you want and create miracles. Even as I am writing this, it will make no sense to most people. The answer has always been ‘LOVE’. Anything in this world revolves around this emotion. If you can harness it, you can direct this energy, to something that you want, then you will get it. At least that is the theory and it seems to be true. ‘LOVE’ can change realities. It is a superpower. It is the best superpower you can have.
Christ represents pure love. This is one of the reasons I quit churches or organized religion. They are focus on fear to get followers instead of love. You can feel the amount of love in a church and there is usually very little. If you are Christian, you have to follow Christ. He represents love. This is his message. This message is forgotten and not stressed upon in churches because I feel no love emanating from people, only fear, only selfishness, and most people have no love for others. I only sense judgement. Anyway, I mentioned Christ because he represents love. I am not very religious. I want my spirituality to be explained by science. Anyway, I just wanted to stress this out,
LOVE CAN CHANGE AND CREATE REALITIES!!!!
So love as many as you can and forgive as many as you can. When you do this, you can have anything in this world. At least, in theory.