My love life is so confusing. One of the reasons is that I insist on working, getting a lot of things done, and improving my financial situation a bit for the next couple of months. I am more interested in improving myself right now than anything else. Fortunately, this will end in mid to late October. At that time, I am allowing myself to ask a girl out on a date or make an attempt at connecting with someone.
After that is done, I am still left with a lot of confusion. Fortunately, I figured it out on how to remove a lot of the confusion by doing positive actions. One of the confusion that plagues my mind is that I have no idea who to ask out or who to be with. Should I wait for her or should I ask another one, if the other says “maybe”, should I wait for her also? The second questions is Do these girls even want to be with me? This question doesn’t really matter because I will know when I make an attempt but it still haunts my mind.
To lessen the confusion and bring order to my love life. I will compile a list of qualities that is a must have, want, and don’t want in a woman. By making a list of what I want or the type of girl that I want then it is easier and a lot clearer on how to proceed with my love life.
- Must take care of herself, her body, her mind, healthy and be somewhat fit
- Loves me or she can see herself falling in love with me
- Mutual attraction
- Likes to help her family, parents, and loved ones, family oriented
- Loves herself or kind to herself – very important!
Qualities that I Want, that I am attracted to but at the same time I can live without them
- Kind – Strong type of kindness. Not the type that requires self-sacrifice.
- Supportive, Nurturing, Likes to Encourage
- Adventurous, likes the outdoors
- Likes to try new things or learn new things
- Pleasant, Happy, Playful and Low Maintenance
- Thankful or Grateful
Qualities I do not want
- Unhealthy, Overweight
- Lack of integrity, unfaithful, cheater
- Liar, Dishonest
- Controlling, Demanding
- Rude, Disrespectful
- No self-respect
Of course, I understand that if I want to attract this type of woman in my life then I have to be this kind of guy in my life also. Like attracts like. People with the same qualities tend to attract each other. So I will work and improve on these qualities also.